Women Emotional/Trauma Therapy
Suzanne has walked with women since 2010, mainly focused on “in the moment” kind of walking/counseling and addressing problems as they arise. Suzi is now becoming more intentional and using the tools they teach in their workshops as well as some other tools she has learned.
It was brought to our attention by some of the ladies in our support groups that people have no idea how to take thoughts captive. It is very difficult to do this when you don’t know which thoughts you actually need to take captive. We have been so deceived by the lies of the enemy that the things we have come to believe about ourselves, God or others, do not measure up to God’s truth about ourselves, God or others. We hopelessly believe the lies are our reality and we have to live with it, get over it, or forget it and hope our pain will eventually just go away. When it doesn’t, we are left in despair, disillusioned and even lose faith that God is even there. Suzi takes individuals who desire to stop the insanity of doing the same thing over and over expecting different results and helps them learn how to do things differently.
2 Corinthians 10:5 tells us that we are to "…destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every thought captive to obey Christ…"
The first part of that renewing is confronting your shaming thoughts. Paul urges us to "be transformed by the renewal of your mind" (Romans 12:2). Walking in obedience is recognizing that our shaming thoughts are not coming from God. It takes work to take your thoughts captive each time they pop into your mind, but it is possible with the help of the Holy Spirit and others who remind you and even lovingly rebuke your shaming thoughts (thoughts that do not line up with the truth of God’s word about you, himself, or others).
You can do hard things. It is not easy to retrain your thoughts or to respond in new Christ-like ways but it is possible through the power of the Holy Spirit. The second part of that renewing is developing a new frame of reference that Paul encourages us to have in Philippians 4:8, based on what is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, commendable, excellent, and praiseworthy.
For more information contact Suzanne at firstname.lastname@example.org
In 2004, Paul confessed to Suzanne his sexual compulsion/addiction that started at a very young age and grew even through becoming a Christian, graduating from Bible College, getting married, becoming a pastor then a missionary, and being a father of 4 with 3 grandchildren.
Paul’s background in theology and his personal struggle gives him a unique approach to getting to the heart of “the how” and “the why” things can become out of control to seemingly “normal” people around their sexual acting out. Even though this is problem with both men and women Paul’s passion is to work with men to find their freedom.
Paul was trained by Patrick Carnes through the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). In 2012, he was certified as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (PSAP). In 2014, he became a PSAP-S which means he has been recognized by IITAP as someone who can be a supervisor to those trying to get the PSAP certification.
For more information contact Paul at email@example.com
Men Sexual Compulsion/Addiction Freedom
Paul and Suzanne have been married since 1986 and for the first 18 years they “loved hard and fought hard”. In 2004, things came crashing down and they were heading for divorce. They sought help and were able to restore what Satan was trying to destroy. Since 2010, they have walked with over 180 couples out of their own crisis which when put together with their crisis gives them a powerful message to the couple wanting to “do it right” the first time or for those who are on second/third marriages and want to “do it different this time”.
Their unique approach of preparing a couple, as a couple, for the complexities of marriage is not a program, but rather something that is designed uniquely to each couple. It is a real and refreshing approach. They believe that most premarital counseling only addresses the obvious, is very optimistic and does not prepare the couple who is infatuated with each other in their engagement for the realities of becoming “one flesh”.
They require a minimum of six sessions (12 hours) but are open to more if desired or needed for each couple.
Business Mentoring and Conflict Resolution
Paul has a set of skills and strategies used to support peoples’ ability to engage in, manage, or productively resolve conflict. He has been a private mentor, couples mentor, and business mediator for over 20 years. He specializes in high-conflict personal and professional dispute resolution and conflict resolution as well as working with high conflict and conflict communication with businesses, couples, and families.
As a professional, Paul has worked as an International Missions Director supervising 18 ministries in 7 different countries, owned 2 businesses, and co-founded Christian Marriages in Crisis (CMIC) in 2010, a ministry geared to couples in high-conflict and headed for divorce.
Paul is a confidential listener that helps the business owner to see the situation from all perspectives, supports in considering options, and helps to develop a plan of action to deal with conflict. He provides additional clarity about each situation, enabling the ability to effectively and confidently make high-quality decisions to manage conflict. He also helps rehearse conversations so that the business owner is prepared to more confidently enter into a conflict resolution discussion.
Support for the Local Church
Living180 comes alongside churches as Paul and Suzanne do with couples in crisis. With the divorce rate just as high, if not higher than in marriages outside the church, we believe they can be used as a great asset to the church. They desire to aid, support, encourage, and train churches in working with marriages in their church.
Paul and Suzanne’s unique approach to helping marriages grow so they do not end up in a “crisis” is real and refreshing. Each church’s needs are different and as a result we offer a variety of help:
Developing Couple Crisis Support Groups
Mentoring/Coaching Support Group Leaders
Crisis Marriage Counseling
All of us know someone affected by divorce. What if someone had been willing to walk with them through their crisis before they divorced? Would things have turned out differently?
Unlike a clinical counseling firm, Paul and Suzanne do not clock in and out, billing couples by the hour, but “walk” with couples on a daily basis while trusting God to provide the needed funds. Their goal is to never turn aside a couple in crisis. CMIC relies on donations to fund the extra time spent instead of a normal hourly rate that would place the cost well beyond the reach of most couples.
“We are able to do this because we’ve been there ourselves. God redeemed our broken relationship and brought harmony to our marriage. God brought people into our lives that walked with us in a spirit of gentleness and we want to do the same with others.”